Jack, think of it this way, if a friend of yours found out his wife was cheating on him would you think he had a right to be upset? If you agreed, would you then aree with your friend if he decides to kills his wife and her lover and all of their relatives? Okay, this is an extreme analogy(which doesn't relate to the situation perfectly, I should add) but the point I'm making is that you can understand someone's reasons for doing something but not agree with the action they took.. Melissa