lavender opened this issue on Apr 12, 2003 ยท 15 posts
dialyn posted Sat, 12 April 2003 at 6:07 PM
I know my style in graphics and in writing are not the preferred styles on the forums. I can't tell a person they are wrong for not doing what I do...they are doing what is right for them. I really don't feel I have any credentials for providing critiques. I'm not a published writer. I'm not an editor. I'n not an artist. I didn't win awards in school for my abilities. I'm not a teacher. I'm not trained in any particular skills, nor do I study a particular form. Why would anyone care what I think? They should not. If they do, then they need to recheck their priorities. I don't open my graphics up to feedback because the "wow, this great" doesn't do me any good and the "this sucks" tells me nothing useful, and there is precious few who take the time to provide more input than that. I already know I'm not an artist and not doing the kind of graphics that would get lots of views. That was not my goal. Still isn't. I try, in my writing, to tell the truth of my story as best I can. I can't write like someone else, so some of the advice I've been given is not advice I can take (is it possible to change a style?) nor do I feel qualified in any respect to give criticism because I acknowledge that my preferences are, at best, the viewpoint of a minority of one. To be honest, I don't know what people want when they ask for feedback. In my heart of hearts, I think they want to be told they are wonderful. If I can't say that with any honesty, I would rather be silent than hurt someone's feelings. But sometimes I am silent because a graphic or piece of writing so moves me that it wouldn't benefit from additional comment from me. Catch 22. When I have given negative feedback, I've ended up in quarrels where the person defends what they are doing as if I am attacking the center of their universe. I don't really want to have any more of that kind of conversation. Better to be silent then.