Well holli, in my experience, max's mapping is pretty sucky. You'd save yourself a lot of hassle by just getting uv mapper and doing it in that.

I export everything from max as 3ds, import to poser, export the obj and map it. No problems.

You can also go to the uv mapper forum and ask steve cox himself about this problem. He can usually answer pretty much anything, since he wrote the program.

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