Thanks Catlin for your support. I have an unusual amount of support. In fact my in-laws are still talking to me and are very nice to me. I was with him for 20 yrs and he just up and left me for a co-worker, I'll get by without him. I didn't make him happy and there's no point in keeping a relationship going if you have to be phoney to make the other person happy. I'm getting counseling too so I'll be just fine without him. And to think just a month ago I was being all proper and not flirting, sheesh. Stefano, anytime you want to flirt with an older woman, just let me know. (that would be me, the older woman) Catlin, sure I'll help flirt with the Bryster, just so damn rusty I'll need to warm up to it. Oh won't he be happy.:)