pdxjims: Add my sympathies for you and your family during such a difficult time. I hope that the support of those around you, such as this community, can provide some comfort. Best of hope for the recovery of your dad's and brother's good health, and for the growth of acceptance amont those most in need of it. (And many of whom should be so lucky as to have a life partner of 14 years - you are blessed!) The 'net is a wonderful place, though, in that sometimes we learn there are people out there we've never met, yet who nonetheless love us for ourselves. Thus from me to you. April Follies