Rayraz, hang in there. Like everyone's saying, being her friend will always get you further. As far as the fighting thing goes, skip it. Most women think that men who fight over them are assholes. The few women who like that sort of thing tend to be assholes themselves :-) Besides, even if you won the fight, she's more likely to hate you for hurting her boyfriend. Remember, it's always going to be her choice, whatever happens. The trick is to be someone worth choosing ;-)