I'm sorry you're going through such a bad time. Just remember, you can give advice but people don't have to take it. And some people have to learn the hard way that the advice they carelessly ignored was easier than the road they have chosen to pursue. And you can't be responsibile for someone else's choices. I know it is hard to stand by and watch someone else be stupid. Right now my mother is smoking herself into a hospital bed where she has been twice before. No matter what I say, no matter how my heart breaks, it doesn't matter as much to her as her cigarrettes. So all I can do is watch her kill herself because she is an adult woman, reasonably sound in mind, and apparently likes to gasp for breath and have a hacking cough instead of breathing normally. I've done all I can do...the rest is up to her and she's made her decision. And I know it's not that easy. The people who suffer the most are the people who care for the people making the mistakes. Take care and know that at least here we all faithfully take your advice. Right???? Right. ;)