I don't work, except the cottage stuff I do at home, like when I used to do poser things. I have my account, he has his account. Every payday I get my "allowance" transferred over and he doesn't have any say in what I spend it on. It's really good for the harmony that way... and there's no need to treat it as a secret. Just tell him you'd like him to set aside whatever amount is your acceptable "limit" for you to move to your account and there you go. If he doesn't like the idea, remind him that having a set amount every two weeks is better than a nasty "surprise" on the statement a month later. Plus it gives you the opportunity to save up for special occasions where you might need to buy a gift for him.