I dont know what I expected when I posted this message. Certainly nothing like the generous outpouring I received. To those of you who responded in this forum and in private, my heartfelt thanks. I considered an answer for several days. The details I thought to post on this forum would have been very hurtful, and I am glad now they never reached this page. I was half-mad for a couple of days (some of you would say Only that long? Youve been crazy since you started posting in this forum.). Suffice to say, I have lots of family around. Lots of family here as well as it turns out. I thank you all again. I may have to miss a week or two at a time. Death is more like a slow avalanche. There are a hundred details like doctor bills, property, and who made coffee in the mornings, which careen down after the fact, demanding immediate attention. I will check in and eventually be back.