Forum: Bryce


Subject: I didn't say it before.. I think I should

pidjy opened this issue on Mar 24, 2004 ยท 56 posts


Lumina posted Thu, 25 March 2004 at 5:45 PM

Pidjy, I'm sorry to hear of your sad news. I've been a nurse for 20 years and have seen many people through their deaths from bone cancer, and have even had a rare cancer myself (and had a tumour removed a couple of weeks ago). I know that people mean well when they tell you to fight, but sometimes fighting does you no good at all, and just ends up making you feel bad when you lose. Sometimes you cannot win, no matter how hard you fight, and it sounds like you've been given this kind of prognosis yourself. Sure, some people survive for long periods, but many more do not. I'm not saying this to be depressing or morbid, just so that you might make better use of the time you have. Spend your time loving your family and friends, making them know how much you cherish them, rather than struggling against what is probably an unbeatable foe. If you survive after all, then you've spent your time well anyway, rather than fixating on the struggle. The number of people who I've seen go to their grave feeling that their death from cancer is somehow their fault because they didn't 'fight hard enough' is saddening. So, do the things you need to do, spend your time with your loved ones, and take pleasure in those special moments you still have. I have cried the tears myself, thinking my own cancer would make me leave my loved ones. I sincerely hope you don't suffer too much, and that you and your family get through this as well as possible.