also I might add that being exposed to something kinky, sexual, ugly, violent, doesn't create the affinity for it. When you're exposed to stuff you're either into it or not, on some level, at sight. If it's exposure to something you've never seen before, the exposure to it is usually actually just a confirmation of something you've already thought of - and hence the affinity. All of this is the world, this is what's here. Hiding some of it doesn't make any of it not so. : ) It's a kind of... "c'est la vie" thing. : ) Dave