Moderating is an art in itself, as you will surely know Mindy;-)))) It is not for everybody.....

I want to add a few words about Arend, because he is my friend....Of course I had and still have my "issues" with him too...He gets easily obsessed and sometimes this clouds his sense of reality...Add to this his rudimentary grip on the English language, and you can see the source for this kind of problems...
He often is like a little boy, and speaks his mind without thinking about the consequences...But he also can be as sweet as this little boy, so happy with a thing of beauty, or with a bit of warmth someone gives to him...

I developed a "communication-strategy" to deal with this: Sometimes I simply ignore, or step back for a while, and, if allegations were made in public ( as has been often the case in some groups I have been in with him..) I ask him loudly and openly for an explanation. We speak the same language (Dutch), which also helps a lot!

Mental issues, of course, but you cannot simply ban everybody that behaves strange or un-adapted straight away...
(and probably another person with a like set of problems will fill the space immediately;-))))

Sorry about ranting like this, but I have a lot of people around me in my life, that are "different" in one way or another, so it is a bit of an issue with me!

A hopeful Eveline:-))))