First Cara let me say that most who know what happened to me know how devastated I was as my mother was basically the only family I had.What happened was I had been dealing with depression and a lot of stress...then I found out my cat was dying of cancer as well which caused a total relapse on my part because I just couldn't handle it.You literally have to know the grief of feeling you somehow contributed to your mothers death because of your and her faith in the doctors...but I had misgivings even though I still had faith.Then she died in absolute agony because hospice kept screwing up getting her morphine...they finally got her pills when they knew she couldn't swallow and she was dead before they authorised a morphine drip.It wasn't my cat having cancer that set me on a downward spiral...it was having everything from moms death come flooding back because she died so horribly from cancer and dealing with it all on my own.This person was someone I thought a friend and she knew everything I was enduring...thats why her comment hurt so much and it was being hurt that led me to delete the image.

MMH...lol,I didn't misread you as I mean't commenting on peoples work you might think suck if they're a newbie.The point I was trying to make is that these people may simply not understand poser or know anyone to ask for help...sometimes it only takes one person to show a little interest for that person to make a remarkable transition.But I would never say I won't comment on someones work who I think sucks lol...if nothing else,if I have friends I occassionally comment on~they'll believe my not commenting means i think they suck when thats not the case at all;P

But if they refuse an offer for help or just don't seem to listen then yeah...leave as they have to find their own way but it feels good to teach someone from your own experience.I know some people think its a pain,I don't and in fact created my own site where people of all talent levels can come and if the members can't help,heck I'll try to;)

As for the Top 20...yeah,you'll have to do something like that to have any control and pick people who are deserving.The top pics shouldn't rely on votes or comments because we all know those are phoney and its been a real problem people have complained about on here for over a year now I know.I don't think there's anything wrong with someone asking you to look at their image though...get your attention and maybe even a comment in return.But for that to somehow show you are better than everyone else...no lol,when the same people dominate that top 20 all the time you know somethings wrong as they should have their moment and then others be given the same chance.The only way that can happen is if some of the members who want change get together and create their own Weekly Top 20 and what good is having a top choice without a reward?I can see at least ten people on this thread alone who claim to want change on this...between 20 people you should be able to pick a top 20 and surely you can collectively afford a $5.00 gc;P

If the end goal of learning is genius...why are most geniuses failures at learning?