Why does someone have to have such an emotional attachment to something they've done? If I'm going to put a lot of effort into making a gift for someone, I darned well want to know it's something they'll want or appreciate. And if I don't take the time to do some research, I will accept the possibility they won't like the gift. If they're friends or family, hopefully they'll have enough tact to let me down graciously. But the key is that I wouldn't go ahead and make something if I weren't sure they'd want or like it. And if they accepted the gift, I wouldn't feel they owed me anything more than a thank-you. No strings attached.