Sounds like you don't have a lot of experience with 3D? I know and use and love PShop, but Poser is a whole different creature. Be patient. Poser is a version 5 (soon to be 6) piece of software, and such later versions are very hard to break into. My humble advice, Take your time. Do the easy things first. Download some stuff from Rosity free stuff. Do some posing. "Realism" may have to wait. Poser is a lot of FUN and worth the work, after you take the time, but it does take time. But it is FUN!!!