"The secret is, before anything you must love yourself first! " In my opinion, this is the cause of much wrong and bad in the world. First one should love and respect God, or, if not a believer, one should love and respect the whole of mother Nature as it shows itself in it's beauty. These are both concepts that include us all humans, as well as the plants and the animals, and it is a much better starting point than an ego perspective. In my opinion of course.