To Marque: You have my gratitude for being an emergency nurse...without folks like you, where would we be? And I doubt if I could make it as one...I'm far too sensitive. I have heard that it desensitizes a person, but I think you have to be of a certain 'breed', if you will, to start with. Thanks for being one of the ones that takes care of people who need it and so sorry for things you have to deal with on a day-to-day basis! To neftis: You are right...we can change ourselves and be better parents than ours were. I am better in some ways than my own mother because I WANTED to be, ever since I was little. I knew what I would do differently when I had my own kids someday. And I did it! I'm not perfect, but I am better.