I love the idea of "ask Anton"... let me give it a try :) Dear Anton,

I caught my husband having an affair with a woman half his age. We are about to celebrate our 20th anniversary.

We have 3 children and the oldest is just 2 years younger than my husbands lover.

I just don't know what to do. The marriage has been good for the most part. I just don't know what to do.

My family tells me to kick the bum to the curb, but I have so much time invested in this relationship and I think I still love my husband, but don't know how I can forgive him for his infidelity.

Anton, what should I do?

Desperately undecided and in despair

Message edited on: 05/27/2005 02:39

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi