All I see in this thread is a "he said she said" type situation. Both sides have aired their grievance, I think it's best if it were settled off board rather than dragging it on here anymore. It's doing nothing to facilitate community in my opinion.

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi