Rule #1 The Internet is not always a nice place. It is like Central Park: really neat in the daytime, but not the place an innocent defenseless mark human being wants to be after dark. Rule #2 If you go insulting people online, just remember that you are never 100% anonymous. You can be found, and odds are pretty good that there's a satellite photo of your house. Behave yourself unless you can defend yourself. Rule #3 If someone does something dumb and commits an actual real-life crime to 'get even' (like screws with your mail by using fraudulent means to do so), you don't cry and whine about it to a lawyer hoping to make money out of it. You call the proper authorities (Postal Service), press charges against the stupid punk (Mail Tampering and Mail Fraud). You let him whine and cry to the judge about it while he contemplates the loss of his reputation, career, freedom, and - oh - his Internet Access. Rule #4 If someone harrasses you in a chat room, flame his sorry ass into oblivion. Call his bluff. Dare the little asshat to reveal himself, and when/if he refuses, laugh at him. Then laugh at him every time he shows his greasy little nose in your presence, taking the time to point out to everyone else present what he's all about. Once he gets laughed at enough, he goes away. Bullies look for easy marks, and won't stick around for the ones they believe they can't 'get to' mentally. Rule #5 Someone threatens to show up at your house? Refer them to the exact, verbatim quote of local laws allowing you (in most places within the US) the perfect legal right to defend your home and property with any force necessary, including lethal force. If such laws are weak or non-existent, refer them to the penalties list from your local anti-stalking laws. Then dig up as much info on him as you can, in case the little yutz decides that his gonads really are bigger than his brain. In either case, call their bluff in public, in full detail - if the guy is serious, he'd do it without telling you, and otherwise, it drives the point home that perhaps they should get off of Daddy's 'puter for awhile and think it all over. Rule #6 If the mods/management doesn't give a shit and the harrassment is real, leave and don't return. You have no business demanding that a site admin do anything if he/she has demonstrated that no such remedial action will occur. Many a website and USENET newsgroup has fallen or withered to the point of obscurity due to bad management in this fashion. It's that simple, folks. This place is not Disneyland. Take it from someone who first got on the thing in 1991, and has been online almost consistently since 1995. This little flamefest that keeps the Internet nice and warm has been going on a very long time - ever since some brainless jackass had the temerity to claim that emacs was somehow superior to vi, as a matter of fact. So I strongly suspect that it ain't going to get any nicer anytime soon. /P