I'm afraid you misread me. I didn't say it was "the" solution. I said it was "a" solution and mentioned other techniques as well. I have seen a number of different types of techniques work in different situations. My point was that the technique isn't what brings one down (or up) to another's level. It's the motive. For the record - using a physical metaphor - if a bully backs you into a corner, swings at you, and you duck it then swing back (same technique) and you lay him out flat on his back unable to get up, you are the one that won. Fighting is never a desirable solution, but sometimes - only sometimes - it's the only option. Unless, of course, you're willing to be injured or die for your principles. ;-)

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