wow thanks everybody for such a fantastic response! it was lovely to read all that I wish I could say something that would make everything better or relieve some of the problems... this month's competition seems quite apt to this thread "Laughter is the best medicine" some made me sad but most made me smile, but this is a great community to be in where everyone is so helpful and friendly thanks cant tell you haw much i appreciate this x p.s. good to see photos too!!