acadia, you said: if I want to explore my erotic side, I'd rather do it up close and personal with the love of my life and not vicariously through computer generated pixels. just for the record, this is what i read as thinly veiled judgment. at best it was carelessly worded; it was certainly not deeply thought out, and it really raised my eyebrows. what's with the false dichotomy? why assume those who enjoy 3D erotica don't also have a love of their life with whom to explore things? they're not all sitting furtively cowering in XXX theatres, dressed in semen-stained trenchcoats. why is 3D erotica by definition vicarious? and what if somebody doesn't have a love of their life? nice for you that you do; what are they supposed to, twiddle their thumbs until somebody shows up? this sounded to me like a judgment on people whose erotic senses are touched by pixels on a screen, like you were better than they, and you pitied them. there was more along similar lines in two other posts. you say you didn't mean to be intentionally hurtful, and i believe you; your posts generally are helpful and kind. but this was a statement that could easily hurt nonetheless (and did), and you might want to rethink it; i didn't see you twigging even a little bit to what was actually problematic about that statement. my burqa quip was a jab at your "dress with transparency only below the knees". i thought better of it and edited it out to be less snarky, but it was not a reflection of how i feel about women (chuckle), but of how i feel about "my erotica is more wholesome than yours". anyway. enough. this is really boring now, and i am a little peeved because this thread could have been interesting -- a few people tried to discuss the subject from various angles in good faith, and i was hoping for more of that. i think i go and render some dirty old women in trenchcoats now.