"once it's sent it's sent" is only meaningful if the deletion is not allowed.
phpbb forums allow you to edit or delete private messages that have not yet been read.
The easy way out here is not to allow deletion of unread messages, otherwise the system is misleading/poorly designed.

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a sweet disorder in the dress kindles in clothes a wantoness,
do more bewitch me than when art is too precise in every part