Should have said - sorry - I did find a thread here - http://excalibur.renderosity.com/mod/forumpro/showthread.php?message_id=2695117&ebot_calc_page#message_2695117 and in the instructions it says:

7. Now open your MilBaby3 CR2 in a text editor and edit the two lines near the top that point to the original object file to point to your new Mil3BabyV3.obj file and save as A NEW NAME - Do NOT overwrite your original (say maybe 'Mil3BabyV3.Cr2')

I opened mine in notepad and there is no reference at all to the original object so where did I go wrong? I did open the .obj I had made in poser - it was not in the figures library so I imported the .obj and he was just a prop.