they may well find themselves yielding to the inescapable logic of the situation. :lol: it's less server-intensive to have a generic message (e.g. you have been added to "username's" favourites list) than to force the server to go thru the database, trying to find if it's an him, an her or an "it", then forcing the server to insert the appropriate possessive form into the favourites message, as well as the username.