Quote - I'm the opposite of hawkfyr.  I find thin  women to be physically attractive, however my wife who I love dearly, is on the heavy side of voluptuous.  Love does not equal physical attraction.  My mother has always been thinner than BH's thin.  She's alive and healthy in her mid-80's.

That's why it's important to find someone who subscribes to the same "ideal" as you do.

On a side note, I hope you don't harp at her about how she looks. That's a sure way of hammering down someone's self esteem and making them either eat more or starve themselves trying to fit a mould that they don't necessarily want to fit into themselves.

I'll bet that you look different than you did when you were younger and first married.  Maybe less hair, not as fit etc. It's a fact of life. 

If you love your wife, you love her unconditionally, and that means who she is, not what her physical packaging looks like. Large or small, she's still the same woman that you fell in love with and married. 

We are more than our outsides which changes over the years and becomes shriveled and wrinkled or disfigured from accidents etc.   The "person" inside remains the same, and that's the entire essence of who you fell in love with.

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi