Quote - With the spot light I know you have to do a 'point at' command which I did point the light to the character, but it did not seem to help.

I used to do it that way, but I find I get more accurate results using the shadow camera
to aim the light.  Then I just change the light's xyz positions and rotations to get the
light on the part I want to illuminate.
If you already have point set up, you can unselect it by going back to point
at and select Universe as to what it should point at.  The Point then magically
disappears in your light parameters box.