just a note to say I haven't forgotten this thread but with christmas and summer school holidays (am in Australia) and 4 kids to entertain  my time is a wee bit scarce. they all go back to school at the end of the month then my holidays start ( just like my weekend starts on a monday when they are all in school lol) so plenty of time then to catch up

Handle every stressful situation like a dog.
If you can't eat it or play with it,
Pee on it and walk away