Ok, I have all of this great advice printing. They are going to either think that I'm shrewd for having done some homework on this or some crazy cat lady  when they see all of the pages of advice you guys have given me.

Oh, and by the way, if I suddenly go missing, it's because my computer died and I can't get it turned back on again and haven't yet got the new one.

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi