tjohn,
Believe me I know what you're going through . . .You may have noticed I've not been very active in the forums lately ... this is because I just went through what you are going through with your father with my mother who passed away on the Ninth and who I had been caring for in ever increasing degree for what seems to me now to have been the longest time. It was tormenting enough watching her slip away physically and mentally and knowing her wishes were to stay at home as long as possible. Since her passing I've  discovered a whole new world  of torment - everything from the Coroner dragging his feet in issuing a death certificate so the insurance could take care of her remains to not being able to resume working at the same place as before and thus running out of the financial resources I need to stay off the street. There are several things that never got taken care of while she was still of sound mind such as setting up a joint checking account and powers of attorney. The sense of loss is immense; only amplified by all the legal and financial details. If it had not been for the help from her church in making arrangements, things would be an even bigger mess. 

I can only hope that things work out for you - you have my deepest sympathies ! 
-TJ