Well I got that hair from DAZ and it definately is closer to what I hoped than anything else I've tried so far.   And a really beautiful hair to boot.

I really do wish there was a such thing as fully poseable hair though.   As many hairs as I have purchased in the last few weeks attempting to find something that actually just went back off the shoulders rather than flew back - is just crazy.  

Thanks for help, suggestions, and well wishes!

I am:  aka Velocity3d