Quote - I simply wanted to know if there was some concievable purpose to making comments that were not sincere - to better understand it.

 

This reminds me of how I used to get myself in trouble/and or misunderstood at times... I would ask a serious question, and vent a little at the same time.

What I found out that people end up focusing on the emotion of the question, and try to calm me down (mostly by sayying, don't feel this way, which is most unhelpful way of trying to calm someone down, by the way, but people do it all the time)

After I had calmed down (which often happened right after I hit "POST"), I was a lot more interested in "Why", and had forgotten the vent.

To my dismay, I would notice that for days, or as long as the thread was alive, people still kept telling me what to do to calm down, and my real question never really got answered. Usually, the more I tried to get the question answered, the more people thought I was still riled up (even if I no longer posted in a vert-like manner)

It seems to turn into a catch 22 or some sort of a group butterfly effect, one you vent, then everyon else's feelings get riled up a tad, and most of logical discussion seems to go out the window, and most participating individual pursues their emotional angle of the discussion - usually somewhat different to the initial post, but closer to something that has riled them up in the past, and the initial post reminded them of it.

It's not that people aren't understanding you, it's that by now, they're talking about something slightly different, and neglect to consider that you're reading it, and may be thinking, uh-oh, I didn't really mean it like that (not realizing they're no longer talking about you)...

I hope it all makes some sense, I have to run out so I'm not rereading and editing at the moment ;)

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