I will certainly agree with what you say here..these two items you mentioned have special note to me.  

"7) Windy days will ruin most efforts to get these type of shots...so, try calm periods...again, early morning or evening seem to be best."

First the windy days mean moving stuff, that is how it bothers my shots.  I often shoot without the brightest light and fastest shutter, still wantng to get a decent dof. Yes, calm days are best for the shot and to find the bugs.

"9) Talk to the bugs...sounds crazy, I know...LOL...but it really seems to work especially for the dragonflies and buttys."

Talk to the bugs..does not sound crazy to me. I believe it might be possible the dragonflies around here have passed to thier offspring that "he is not a threat"...yes, sounds crazy but each year with much talking to them and getting closer and closer, the next year the new ones are easier to approach..like they have my image ingrained as "no threat".  No science to prove that, only experience.