Ok, well I found something interesting. Basically when I 'applied universal pose' it flipped the wings upside down (which is oddly the same thing it did when I conformed the wings to the person and thus had to flip them back around the right way afterwards).

But when I click on 'apply original pose' the wings stay right where I want them. I have no idea why. For that matter, I'm not even sure what the difference between applying universal and original poses are.

Anywho, it works that way, so I'm happy.