Quote - I wanted it to more realistically grip my characters.  the gentailia itself was't to be heavily visual, if at all, but I wanted the option to air on the side of realism.

Have you perhaps thought of using primitive spheres (scaled x,y,z) to accomplish the same effect? You get up a few spheres, scale them to about the right bulge (male or female), position them on the body, parent them to the body part they're sticking to, and then fit your clothes.

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