If you only read what I wrote, you'd agree......

I do. and can understand why you feel strongly about this issue.
Yes there are jerks out there, and sometimes you do have to bark, overall though I find most mails ask for permission politely and say thanks. 

My approach is if they behave like a spoilt brat they don't get.
Good manners get results. Simple as that.   

Pinky - you left the lens cap of your mind on again.