Helen, I just saw this thread! I'm so sorry to hear about your son! :(

Words are so inadquate, but please know that I'm thinking of you and your mom.

I hope the move goes well. It sounds like a very dangerous place to live, so I hope you find safety and peace at your new home.

hugs

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi