thanks for all of the help
i am sorry for the noob question
i just need lost of help
i always see the AO thing but i am not 100% sure what it stands for
(once again, sorry for the noob questions)
i did use a tut that i found from GND that i have that helped alot
but with those settings
the render takes like 15 hours
although i was rendering a 1200x1200 pixel picture
i just don't know anything about lighting a scene very well
and i would love to add depth of blur(?) to the scene
without it looking like crap too

but once again
thank you for your help