There's a book about his kind of stuff, by Jay Carter - Nasty People

I've been known to get in a lot of arguments with people... and they always start with my noticing a few 'invalidating attempts' towards me or someone I care about... and unfortunately my trigger is to go into 'biting their head off' when I spot ot. (Yeah, I know not the best way to handle it)

However, my point here is, I'm not all that unique in the ability to spot and dislike someone's invalidating approach, beit veiled, euphemized or more direct. Last thing I would recommend is to engage woth someone using that approach. 

In my case there's also 'riled up past common sense point', and sometimes I do confront people like that on purpose, and use the same tactic on them. Usually they get all huffy puffy and upset. 

Hi, my namez: "NO, Bad Kitteh, NO!"  Whaz yurs?
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