So i have been messing with the glossiness/specular/bump/and displacement for the last DAY, 8 hours of rendering, just to figure this problem out haha i am getting some results though, i am finally getting some texture in the face, though it was a little too much, but at least im getting closer

edit I am having trouble gettings the face pics to upload, not sure why, but i will try again tomorrow... er... rather... when i wake up.  Thanks again to everyone thats helping me out, i really appreciate it