I hope I'm not adding to my troubles.

  Suggestions to discuss sensitive matters

1)  never make it personal...
    Just keep to what was said.  
    don't call anyone nasty names

2)  never assume what was said reflects in reality  who the speaker actually is like..
   example..they posted something stupid then you assume they are stupid
   Try to address what was laid on the table and not attack the speaker..
   don't confuse the messenger with the message...!

I'm thinking of more suggestions.. please contribute if you like..

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