dphoadley opened this issue on Jan 20, 2009 · 92 posts
Diogenes posted Sun, 25 January 2009 at 10:23 AM
@DP: Congrats on the use of your work, feels good that others find your work of value.
@the rest: A true story perhaps of relavence. As a child I was raised in the most puritanical repressed environment you could imagine. Allowed only to have friends of the same religious and moral veiws subject to approval of my parents, which means none. For years I thought myself to be the devils own and possesed by demons because of my secret masturbation. Extra carricular school activities, forgett it "bad associations spoil usefull habits" Sex was a hidden subject and a dirty nasty thing only approved for procreation, not to be enjoyed. All this indeed kept me walking a very narrow and fine line, the perfect child, polite and well mannered, spoke only when spoken to. I learned almost nothing about the world around me, what was actually normal, or how to relate to it.
By the time I finally rebelled my graduating year, ( and beleive me all children will eventually find their own way) I was wound so tight all into this compressed little ball of nitro. I totally exploded, was into everything under the sun and had no concept of how to deal with it or how to relate to others around me. I became the most debauched, jaded, horror you might imagine. Sex, drugs all of it. Well this period of my life which lasted for some time, was painfull and harmfull. Now I am not blaming my parents, they were good people who only wanted the best for me and did what they knew themselves.
But my deepest regrett was not being prepared for the world, or having any balanced understanding of of whats out there, or how to deal with it. I have slowly over the years come to my own understanding, but I have to say ignorance of the world is never usefull.
Just my opinion of course. But I have since raised a child of my own and never hid anything from him, only discussed all the various aspects of life, logically and seriously. He has made his own life and his own dicisions (with some guidance when young), and has a realistic veiw of his world. He has turned out well adjusted and successfull.