I tried setting the defaultpick to waist, but it still loads with the genitals first..

It's just that some times i get in a hurry, and load the character, and begin posing, and if i forget to select the main character, the Genitals get all out of wack, and i lose time undoing, to get back to where i was.
    and sometimes it just all goes out of wack because of this... ( Sigh ) and have to reload scene and all to get back right.