josterD opened this issue on Oct 16, 2009 · 21 posts
JenX posted Fri, 16 October 2009 at 6:59 AM
I feel your pain. For some reason, and I hate that I do this, whenever I am in a new situation that involves people, I am immediately and all at once annoyed by everyone. Yes, part of it is in fact due to the fact that I can't deal with small talk unless I like the person already, and, if I just met you, how do I know if I like you? I also don't like gossip, don't care what they did on whatever TV show last night, don't watch reality t.v., and don't follow celeb lives. That seems to permeate conversation at every job I've ever been to that involves more than one person (and, no, it's not female-exclusive).
The only advice I can give is...buck up. Eventually, the conversation will change. Be confident, and explain that you're not a big talker, and that you're working on learning your new job. But, hey, coffee break is in X hours, so wanna grab a cup and chat? Be involved, but do it on your own terms. Don't ever feel like you've got to join in on the gossip or whatever just to fit in. Who knows, maybe some of them have the same interests as you do, and are only going with the flow!
Every workplace has its' own dynamic :) You've only been there a few days. You'll get used to it ;)
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