Although my job is just checking documents, all the people around me talk nonstop.. They do customer service, i justt do document checking> And i dont need to be yapping..

But today those customer service women who don't stop yapping.. they said "You gotta start talking"... WTF?? I dont want to tak, and i dont have to so why should i? i'm  aquiet dude and i'm doing the work, so what's the problem?

I konw those women are gonna start talking behind my back and they probably already did, and they talk to the boss .. Perhaps even saying "This mute guy .. i dont like him.. maybe we should get rid of him, get another"

I talk to ask stuff and if i need to say something but i'm not the yappy kind who jokes and gossips.

Should i stay or what??

It took me long to find this job. and i've been here 3 days

Why not try to get along and make freinds of your new fellow employees?

You dont need to even think about leaving.  Try to get on with them. Dont let the chatting get in the way of what you are being paid to do though.   Just say you are trying to focus on your work so you do well cause you need the job. Toss a comment there way occasionally.  

Good luck with the job .

If the job doens't require it and you're not comfortable doing it, then don't do the chatting!
Make friends there sure, but don't be forced to do stuff you don't want if it's not part of the job.
I'm similar in outlook to you, I go to work to actually work not talk and joke around, that can be done at break times and leisure times.
Good luck, hang in there, jobs are precious at the moment!

I think you're over reacting to them just wanting to get to know the new guy so they don't feel like they have a serial killer in their midst. Lighten up.

Tell them you're shy & it takes a while for you to open up to new people & make friends.

Quote - ...It took me long to find this job. and i've been here 3 days

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... 3 days?

First off, don't sweat it. 

Second, if you've only been there three days, how do you know you won't enjoy talking to your coworkers every once-in-awhile?  Office comraderie is a big deal AND it can help you get your job done more efficiently.  You might NEED the help of someone in that office one day.  That's a lot easier to get if you are already friendly with them.  Getting along well with other employees is a quality that your boss will notice.

But, if they nag you about it and you just can't take it anymore...

Get up from your desk/cube/whatever, walk over to theirs and sit down.  Then, start gabbing incessantly.  It doesn't matter if they're in the middle of something.  Just start asking questions: 

"Wow, that's a nice stapler.  Where did you get it?"

"I like peas.  Do you like peas?"

"I'm thinking of going to eat lunch at the Shady Final-Days-of-Rest Retirement and Nursing Home.  You can get a whole tray of almost edible gruel there for 50 cents.  Want to come?"

The local mortuary is holding a seminar this evening.  I was thinking that would be a great opportunity for all of us to get to know each other...."

"Don't worry,  I'm sure you'll find a new job pretty quick!  What?  Oh, uh.. you didn't know.  Nevermind..."

"I just finished watching the entire 'I Love Lucy' series.  Wow, that was great!  Have you ever seen it.  Well, see, it starts out like this... "

"Can you tell the manager that we're all a little bit tired of him playing talk radio stations over the intercom system?  What do you mean we don't have an intercom system?  But...  "

Pretty soon, they'll stop seeking to involve you in their office culture.  Then, after you get your final paycheck, you won't have to worry about becoming part of a team!  Isn't that swell?  :)

PS - They might just be coming on a bit too strong for you.  That's OK, it's their "culture" as you say.  You can deal with it.  Part of your job description that you didn't read has to do with the ability to mesh well with the workplace.  A good manager will know if someone doesn't fit in or not and will judge them accordingly.  If you are sociable and liked AND get your work done efficiently, then all is fantastic.  You'll score 3 for 3. 

But, if you're not sociable, not well liked but still manage to get your work done despite being constantly torpedoed by your fellow workers, that's only 1 of 3.  It's not a basis for firing BUT it certainly puts a heck of a lot more critical interest on the quality and efficiency of your work.  If you're going to remain in isolation, you had best be sure your work quality in the eyes of management is worth keeping your paycheck coming to you.

I had an employee that simply did not mesh well with the office.  Everyone tried but, she simply wasn't all "there" in the head, I think.  The quality of her work was always sub-par and she made many mistakes.  We all tried to help her.  I even spent extra-time with her, going over her job duties to the point where I was forced to write out even simple activities for her to follow..step-by-step.  IF she had been more sociable, more a part of the office "culture" and had gotten along well with other employees I may not have had to fire her despite her poor performance.  I could have justified going the extra-mile for her.  As it was, I had no choice - She had no redeeming qualities as an employee whatsoever and, further, had become a distraction in the workplace.  So, she got the boot.  

I feel your pain.  For some reason, and I hate that I do this, whenever I am in a new situation that involves people, I am immediately and all at once annoyed by everyone.  Yes, part of it is in fact due to the fact that I can't deal with small talk unless I like the person already, and, if I just met you, how do I know if I like you?  I also don't like gossip, don't care what they did on whatever TV show last night, don't watch reality t.v., and don't follow celeb lives.  That seems to permeate conversation at every job I've ever been to that involves more than one person (and, no, it's not female-exclusive).

The only advice I can give is...buck up. Eventually, the conversation will change.  Be confident, and explain that you're not a big talker, and that you're working on learning your new job.  But, hey, coffee break is in X hours, so wanna grab a cup and chat?  Be involved, but do it on your own terms.  Don't ever feel like you've got to join in on the gossip or whatever just to fit in.  Who knows, maybe some of them have the same interests as you do, and are only going with the flow!  

Every workplace has its' own dynamic :)  You've only been there a few days.  You'll get used to it ;)

Seriously:
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Go to work and discuss,with those chatter ninnies., the oppressive fractional reserve Debt based Monetary System we have

All Attempts to engage you in Small talk will Cease immediately.

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Tell them "guys, I can't talk and read at the same time. Or would you like me to read (what ever document you're checking) to you? We can talk later."

Or start talking poser and get technical and talk about what so and so here at rendo said and then ask their opinion.

Or what I do with my boss when she starts babbling about non work related stuff, turn her mostly out and occationally say yeah, uh-huh, ok?

Also think about talking to your boss yourself. Tell him/her that it's not that you don't want to fit in, but you feel that learning to do your job correctly first.

Suggest a group lunch.

The joke I've heard far too many times at any of my jobs is "keep it down, you're too loud", because I'm the quiet mouse working hard in the back corner.  But a little small talk even if you don't feel like it or have time, and accompanied with a warm smile when you can, it goes a long way.  They might not know you well, but they'll think of you positively.

At least that's been my experience. :)

Wear headphones or earbuds (man I'm getting old - earbuds sheesh!)

with headphones or earbuds in you 1 - don't have to listen to them and 2 people will see that your listening to music etc and doing your work and won't bother you much.

if you do not, then you run the risk of not fitting in with the group and there could be ramifications.

my vote would be to participate in the gossip, just to avoid doing any work.  if the boss weren't brain-dead, he would have already noticed this.  eventually they'll promote him outta there and there'll be a temporary crackdown for a fortnite, during the new boss's setling-in period.

*Shyness is nice, but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to :)
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but if there's something you'd like to try, ask me, I won't say no, how could I?....;)

I'm waiting to hear if any of the above answers suited the OP's needs.....

There are a few companies in the UK who try to mould people in their image (hello C*pita) but you are, by and large, protected by law in that, provided you do your job properly and don't fanny about, there ain't a thing they can do.  At least, that's the theory.

My partner, PurpleJelly  - Claire - was fired because she didn't toe the company line.  She sued them for unfair dismissal and won.  She had to sign a non-disclosure agreement regarding the settlement.  I, however, didn't, and I acted as her negotiator. 

 point is, if he dosn't want to talk, thats his right. they cant fire him for that and doing so would/could be considered discrimmination. If they think he might  be a serial killer, thats their problem for being idiots. hell, i rarely talked at my job and they couldn't get rid of me due to being one of the best workers there.

You know I once got in "trouble" at a job I had for about 12 years because two of the women I worked in an office with were offended that I didn't say "Good Morning". I'm NOT a morning person so they would be all cheery and happy and when they would say Good Morning to me, I would just barely say 'Hey'.. I worked there like I said ,12 years, and EVERYONE knew I was not a morning person.. but those 2 women out of the 6 women that worked with me in that office decided I needed to be a morning person like them.
Boy did I go off when my supervisor tried to MAKE me say Good Morning. Nope Nope Nope.  I'm a talker and get along with most everyone once I get passed the morning hours lol but that just really upset me that they were soooo offended I didn't respond exactly how they thought I should.....

 Stacey, did you at least acknowledge that they were speaking to you? Nothing annoys me more than being ignored. A nod of the head, a quick wrist flick to signal hello. 

I was a security guard and I didn't have to say anything but most people were nice enough to  at least acknowledge that I had spoken to them.

Funny how the ones who never spoke suddenly got all chatty if I ever had to let them into the building.
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