Using the joint editor is what I've been doing.  But yes as models become more complex the task gets overwhelming and just a little bit off can ruin the effects.  I've been able to cope with this, but would like to import and be done.  

I just tried exporting from poser some different formats, all with the same results. 

What I exported from blender in .obj and .3ds both work fine when import to 3ds, but same trouble when brought into poser.  Must be a poser thing, or un-thing.