Quote - eta:  I set all of v4 for the collision target because I couldn't remember which parts the dress touched and couldn't see it with the boxes in the way.  Is that why it's taking so long to calculate?  It's only at frame 5.  lol

Yep!

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi