Apple_UK opened this issue on Aug 22, 2010 · 33 posts
Diogenes posted Mon, 23 August 2010 at 1:34 AM
Hi Apple_UK,
First I would like to say I do not know the specifics of the situation you are speaking of. I have been taking a hiatus from the forums as of late.
But I also have witnessed the type of behavior you speak of as well, many times. At times a forumite commits some gaffe in forum etiquette, which seems to offend somehow and will be ignored for a year or two. What the unspoken "rules" are, I could not even guess. There seem to be many.
The best advice I could give is to simply ignore the ignorers and go on with your own business, anything else just turns into lost time and effort wondering why. Dont get personally invested in friendships or popularity here, its not real. Think of people as fish in a tank on your desk top, what they say or do of no more import than that.
Most of all be true to your own self, regardless of whether or not you "fit in" with the clique of the moment.
I know it can be a hurtfull thing to be ignored or reviled. I dont know you well, but from what I do know, its their loss. There are many nasty little undercurrents here, dont get caught up in them, it will ruin your enjoyment of your hobby. Back when I first started here at Rendo, Anton and a few others told me much the same thing. At the time I didn't know what they meant, but they were spot on.
IMHO of course.
cheers.