Step 1: buy lots of porn

Step 2: ???

Step 3: Profit

Okay, seriously, look at what you're doing right now, and if it doesn't help you get to what you want, probably, do the opposite.

1. get rid of your XXX-Box (as my friends and I would call it) - give it away to a friend if you can't bring yourself to dump it.

2. I'm just guessing here, and I don't know how old you are, so you mileage will vary with this. Instead of looking for a girlfriend, look for a wife. Why do this? It will help you realize what you really want, and how you might need to change yourself.

Excitement is just for a little while, but fulfilment is forever (hopefully). Start thinking long term. If you do this, you might realize that all those people you liked before aren't really the best fit for you.

3. Be yourself. If you come off as uncomfortable, the other person is probably going to get weird vibes and shy away. If you're a bundle of nerves, then start small, just talk to women for the heck of it, and don't try to get their contact information. You might find that one day they'll start giving it to you without you needing to ask.

Everyone get's "rejected" at some point. Expect that this will happen more offen than not, and when it does happen, move on. There are lots of people out there you're compatable with, it's just a matter of finding them.